[kj] [SPAM] Re: [SPAM] i think im gonna give up my chance to see kj in la:[

[Bette Dillinger]

No, it would be more succinct to break the beer bottle over their head first.  Just get the whole preliminary social graces thang out of the way pronto.
 
-Bette


Date: Sun, 11 May 2008 01:17:10 -0400From: killingjoke at theimmortalfool.comTo: gathering at misera.netSubject: Re: [kj] [SPAM] Re: [SPAM] i think im gonna give up my chance to see kj in la:[Would it be more succinct to say "Pardon me, would you be so kind as to go fuck youself"Just Wondering,MeAt 08:47 PM 5/10/2008, Bette Dillinger wrote:
How do you survive your "shyness" in everyday life?  You have to have some adaptative method.  Look at your strengths and go with it.  If you have a daughter and can have relationships, well, that shows you are not a complete misanthrope.  What is the problem with saying to someone that approaches you "Sorry, I am reuniting with so many people that it is hard to place a name with a face?" or the more succinct "I am overwhelmed, back at ya in a bit".    I think the "Go F#$k Yourself" attitude could get a beer bottle over your head.  Just planting seeds. -Bette  



From: jo at arcadia.karoo.co.uk
To: gathering at misera.net
Date: Sun, 11 May 2008 01:22:03 +0100
Subject: Re: [kj] [SPAM] Re: [SPAM] i think im gonna give up my chance to see kj in la:[
'Shy' is a subjective term and doesn't equate to not liking to talk to people.  Not in my context anyway.
Read my explanation again.
It was about ice-breaking, rusting social skills and the possible rudeness of not recognising someone rather than not enjoying a good old gas.
 
Out of interest....would you ever speak to someone like that - what you said?
 
 
 

 
 
  
 
   But if you are shy and you don't like talking to people, why don't you just say to people  "Fuck off I'm shy , I don't want to talk  , I ve come to see Killing Joke and I am quite honestly  not bothered about how you are keeping , so do one  , piss off and go and talk to someone else and let me enjoy me beer"?
 
 
 



From: jo at arcadia.karoo.co.uk
To: gathering at misera.net
Date: Sun, 11 May 2008 00:45:48 +0100
Subject: Re: [kj] [SPAM] i think im gonna give up my chance to see kj in la:[
You make going to a musical airing sound like such a robotic thing.  'Walk in, watch band, leave - ignore all distractions :-)))
Of course it's a social event and you're going to bump into people that you haven't seen for ages and for the shyist amongst us, it's a little daunting - particularly if you're anything like me, as blind as a bat and can never remember names and faces unless they've been drilled into my head which can be quite embarrassing.  This is worsened - everybody else seems to be more adept at recognising me.
Fuck I'd blame it on the beer but I walk past my own daughter in the street in broad daylight.  She pisses herself laughing.
 

"I go through bouts of being undersocialised and it can make social situations daunting. " 
 
  Why do you find it daunting ?
You go to gigs to see a band and you don't go there to talk to people .
I don't particularly like talking to people at the best of times .
 
 


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